May 2010

Women Food and God

I always PVR Oprah. On lazy days, I go through the recorded list and delete all the episodes with descriptions that I don't feel would add to my life. I'm sooo over that phase where I had to watch stuff on TV just because it was interesting. I remember when they added the FOX channel to our cable package, when I was a teenager. Oh My. My entire family, and almost everyone I knew, would spend hours on the couch watching the Jerry Springer marathons. We couldn't stop watching, it was crazy! The Maury Povich show, Montel Williams.. Wow, people are freaks! We're not so bad, all things considered... I don't know when it happened over the last few years, but I finally feel like I've seen enough! 

All that to say that over the past couple of years, I've been pretty fast on the PVR delete button. I hadn't watched an episode of Oprah in a really long time, actually. After a work discussion that somehow ended up broaching subjects like God,  weight loss and health, Wendy told me about the Oprah episode she had just watched : Women Food and God. I was sure that I had deleted it, but for some reason it was still there, on the PVR. The episode is not over, and I already placed a hold online for Women Food and God. This is a part that really resonated with me, and me rewinding it, and typing as much of it as I could while Oprah was saying it, because I want to remember. Here is bits and pieces, and no real interpretation on my part of how that really relates to me... Mostly because I feel like I've written a lot of password protected entries lately, and I don't want this to turn into a mostly private blog.

« What I was really feeling is : every time I have ever been beaten by my grandmother...

...Where you not only got a whipping, but at the end of the whipping, you weren't even allowed to say : That hurt.

"Take that pout out of your lips. You better not act like you are upset. You better shut your mouth and not remind me that I just whipped you."

...What I recognize, as I'm stuffing myself with the lettuce is:

I still have that feeling of "If I don't do what pleases the other person, then somehow that person has teh power to annihilate me."

...It's not just punishment, but my little girl's mind still feels like...

"If I don't do what you say, and I don't make you feel okay by operating by the way you want me to operate, I am somehow going to be destroyed."

That feeling is still there.


That's what the eating is all about.

That is what I believed.


In your book you say : When you were a little girl feeling those feelings, you had to protect yourself, by taking that position. But the thing to understand now is:


You will never be that small again. And that pain is done. It's over. And you are old enough to take care of yourself. »

Slow, Sunny Saturday

Since we've recently been having beautiful weather on the weekends, I've decided to start going to bed earlier (for us), meaning going to bed at the same time as we normally do during the work week. That allows me to get the best of both worlds: the 8 hours of sleep I've been craving all week, AND waking up at an earlier, more respectable, SUNNIER hour. My plan was thwarted last night by wild urges to do the horizontal mambo. My head hit the pillow at 1h30am, but my eyes only opened at 11h30am! I was alone in bed, I never heard Steph, Loki & Chanel leave the room, and my plan to sleep with the curtains open to be awoken by sunlight obviously didn't work. I guess I needed it! 

I got up, put my hair up in a messy bun, put on a short strapless girly summer dress, slathered sunscreen on, grabbed my sunglasses, and went to loung on the deck, in the sun, reading Saffron Skies. Steph eventually came outside for a few minutes and brought me a coffee in a travel mug, to keep the bugs out. How sweet! I stayed there in my lounge chair on the deck, which I totally adore, all afternoon. I was reading slowly, because I kept looking away from the book everytime a hummingbird came to eat some of the sweet nectar that I put out for them, or whenever a bird or a squirrel approached the bird feeder, or when they went for the bird bath. I also look at butterflies, puffy clouds, leaves rustling in the wind, and I daydream. Sometimes I read the same paragraph three times before really absorbing it. But I like it this way.

Around four, we went for a Costco run. Costco was packed, there was a line up at the propane station, but it's kinda worth it. BBQ propane tank refills there are 11$ and they're 20-25$ everywhere else that we've been to! I got some CHERRIES!!! Remember my cherry addiction? I got huge strawberries, fresh blueberries, three different kinds of cheeses... you know how it is when you go to Costco for a couple of things, right? 300$ later... We came home and had a really delicious BBQ together, en tête-à-tête, me, Steph, and Bill Maher. hehe.

Now I'm sitting here listening to Ella Fitzgerald and working away at a strawberry and rhubarb piece of pie from the big Costco pie. I swear, it didn't look nearly as humongous at Costco as it does sitting on my kitchen counter! 

I love slow, sunny Saturday :)

Oh and BTW, the thing yesterday went well, I think. It lasted an hour and I walked out with huge armpit sweat rings. They're supposed to let me know next week! :) 

Good Good GOOD Good Vibrations!

I'm Only Happy When it Rains

Okay, not literally. We just had a wonderful, beautiful,hot and sunny long weekend. (Seriously, it felt like frickin' July!) It was great for the soul! I spent the entire weekend outside, doing yard work. It was hard! The fact that my entire backside is still sore today is proof of that, but when I'm in the right frame of mind, I actually find a lot of joy in gardening. I was a little lazy in the yard last year, so even with all this hard work it's not finished. Well, other amateur gardeners will understand when I say that it'll never be finished, but there are still a few things that need to be done for me to be able to spend a nice sunny day lounging on my back deck without feeling guilty! But my yard is starting to look pretty again! I'm still riding that awesome possum upswing... But all around me bombs are exploding and the people I love and care about are being hurt and/or are sad. Why does it seem like I only ever have these great upswings when people around me are going down? 

To the brokenhearted ones, to the ones who were laid off and/or saw their friends/coworkers not make the layoff cut, to the one who is feeling the tell-tale signs of another kidney stone, to the one who is overwhelmed by the transition of welcoming another child into their family life, to the ones who are generally feelin' blue, and especially to the one who lost their 18 month old niece/Goddaughter in a horrific, tragic accident this long weekend : I frickin' LOVE YOU and I'm here for you, whatever you need, whenever you need.

Life is GOOD!

  • Mom had her regular check up results today from her oncologist, and her numbers are good and nothing is growing!
  • I signed my extension letter this week! I am officially going to do my job until May 28, 2011! I am so, so grateful!
  • It's starting to feel like summer!! Beautiful sunsets over warm greener and greener views.
  • Last weekend was our big choir end of year finale: dress rehearsal on Friday  night, big concert in town at St.John's United Church on Saturday, and smaller, intimate concert at the Albert County Museum on Sunday. The weekend was crowned by the end of year dinner & party, where we got to see a whole different side to those who performed short numbers during the talent show part of the soirée. I almost literally Ate, Slept, Sang only last weekend. And I loved every minute of it. Joining this choir is definitely one of the highlights of 2010. This choir is great for my soul. 2010 rocks! 
  • We are currently riding our highest marriage high ever. I'm still in shock! I am being spoiled rotten with attention and affection and It feels amazing!
  • ..and I'm also being spoiled in other ways.... We were supposed to go not far, but away, this long weekend. We were going to use that 50% off coupon from Chateau Saint-Jean that Steph won at his work Christmas party last year. (It expires at the end of next month.) Turns out, he really can't get away. He has to work all weekend to meet a freelancing deadline for an important project. He has been working so hard. I'm so, SO proud of him. So, using some freelancing money, he got me a Canon Rebel T2i!!! I KNOW!! I still can't believe it!

Pantyhose in the summer

Wouuld wearing a summer dress with pantyhose that look like... well... are exactly these, look crazy? (As in : Why are you wearing pantyhose on such a hot summer day?) I'm thinking - A below the knee lenght summer dress with a 3/4 sleeves very light cardigan over, for work.

This could be life changing...

PS - If you don't already know, going without compression therapy is not an option at all.

 

Appearance Q's

1.  What is your shoe size?

*** 9 (I used to wear size 10 shoes when I was 80lbs heavier, so most of my shoe 'collection' doesn't fit! And I don't feel like buying many shoes in size 9 either, because if I lost a foot size now and have SO much more to lose... So yeah, that's my excuse for not investing in quality shoes at the moment lol)

2.  How tall are you?

*** 5'6"

3. How much do you weigh and/or what are your clothing sizes (please skip this q if you don't wish to share)?

*** 270lbs, Size 3x/24 ish... but I have stuff (that fits) from XL/18 to 3x/24. Today my top is size 20 and my skirt size 2x. 

4. Describe your current hairstyle:

*** Blonde/Caramel, a little past shoulder length, long side swept bangs.

5. What is your bra size? (agan, skip if too personal)

*** XL! LOL I'm constantly in sports bras, because I can never find bras that fit me! Really I would be a 42/44 A, but they don't sell A cup plus sized bras here. I found some on justmysize.com but they don't ship to Canada. I'm planning to find a place to find some the next time I go to NYC, but I don't want to spend a chunk of vacation time bra shopping or anything.  (I wear racer back sports bras all the time, and I don't care what some people think about it. Really, I have some 42/44B's that I have to stuff the cups to be able to wear, and I don't feel sexy because of the stuffing AND just having two relatively small rounded breasts on top of my round body just doesn't add to my overall appearance, IMO. (Not that they're pancakes with the sports bra, just 'water balloon' shaped instead of 'baseball' shaped. Wow, what a long answer to a simple question. You can tell I've got boob issues can't you?

6. What is your skin color/complexion?

*** Pale and rosy

7. How long are your fingernails?

*** Very short. Longer nails impede my typing and texting and I can't stand it, no matter how pretty it looks.

8. Do you wear glasses?  Contacts?

*** I have reading glasses but I never wear them.

9. How are your feet shaped (flat, arched, long toes, etc.)?

*** I have ogre feet. They're not green, but they're big and flat with short little pudgy toes.

10.  What are your hands like?

*** Like adult sized short pudgy baby hands. (with dimples over my knuckles and everything.)

11. What's your body shape (pear, hour glass, etc.)?

*** Definitely apple!

12. Where on your body do you gain weight most easily?

*** Most definitely belly. It's ridiculous really.

13. What is the easiest body part to keep toned/in shape?

*** None :P hehe. I guess I would have to say collar bone area. I can be a size 16 and still have a defined collar bone area, and yes, it's the only visible bones in my body hehe.

14. What are you legs like (long, short, thin, stout, etc.)?

*** Very short. The lady who measures my legs for my compression stockings comments on it every time. She has to order me extra short socks. (I'm 5'6/5'7 depending on who measures me.. but it probably has to do with my posture, and I have a 27"/28" inseam.)

15.  What about your arms?

*** Normal lenght, but I call them my baloney arms (upper arms.) But I say this jokingly, I've never known my arms to be any other way than this and I accept them.  (Even when I lost 140lbs - 60lbs less than I weigh now, they had horrible 'bat wings')

16.  What's your most unusual feature?

*** I don't know that I have anything unusual, except that apparently I'm the only size 22 woman in my whole country who needs A cups? hehe.

17. How would you describe your lips?

*** Full, plump. I really like my lips. TMI - I really love how they look after I give a BJ. I'm serious, they're a little darker and a little swollen and they look sexy.

18.  What color are your eyes?  What shape?

*** Brown eyes, almond shape. My eyes are small. I can't really laugh and see at the same time :P

19. How are your teeth (straight, crooked, very white, yellowish, etc.)?

*** Not really straight, not really 'crooked'... just.. I don't know... my brother and I have distinctive canines. Maybe we were vampires in another life. But when I was a teen I was referred to an orthodontist and he wanted to set me up with braces and a HEAD GEAR! (biting alignment issues) but my parents couldn't afford it.Oh and I'd like whiter teeth.

20.  Which physical characteristic have you struggled with the most in your life?

*** Weight. Always the weight. And boobs. But mostly weight.

21. What are you least favorite phyiscal features?

*** Weight excess and freakishly small boobs.

22.  What are your most favorite?

*** Eyes, smile, nose, collar bone area. And I really do like my one dimple in my cheek.

23. How is your posture?

*** Not terrible, but I definitely slouch at teh computer.

24. What colors look best on you?

*** Black, blue, purple, green - most jewel tones.  The worst for me are the ones I feel self conscious in - pastels, lavender, etc.

25. Do you like your butt?

*** Relatively speaking, yes. I know many women my size who seem to suffer from Flat Butt Syndrome (FBS). My butt is not overly JLo, but it's not that flat either. I like that.

26. Do you struggle with cellulite?

*** I have tons of cellulite. But I don't struggle with it. It's the least of my worries hehe.

27.  Do you have any signs of aging?

*** Oh yeah, fine lines and wrinkles, hair thinning, spider veins, freaking irregularity issues!

28.  Will you medically alter your appearance in any way in the future (plastic surgery, botox, etc.)?

*** I've always said and still maintain that if I ever reach and maintain goal weight, I'm getting myself a new pair of boobs. Not because I want attention from others, but because I want to be able to wear bras like normal women and have tops fit properly and not sag in the chest area.

29. Do you feel sexy?

*** At the moment, even though I am 60lbs heavier than my lowest weight, I feel really sexy.

30.  Have you grown more comfortable with your body/appearance as you've gotten older?  Less comfortable?

*** OMG it's not even comparable. In fact, yes I will never give up trying to lose weight. But honestly, I am OK with myself now. I would like to lose weight, but if I don't, I don't have a problem with it. Oddly, it's other people who have a problem with it and who don't feel the need to keep that to themselves. People in general seem to think that I can't not lose weight. That it's unacceptable. And for the first time in my life, I really don't get why they have a say in this. I have been eating excellent foods/portions for the past 3 weeks and I've indulged a little since the weekend... I just came back from a curry & chips date with my husband, and I really couldn't care less if I gain a couple of pounds from that.

Sing Your Heart Out

(Come on…)
Didn't I make you feel like you were the only man, well yeah,
An' didn't I give you nearly everything that a woman possibly can ?
Honey, you know I did!
And each time I tell myself that I, well I think I've had enough,
But I'm gonna show you, baby, that a woman can be tough.

I want you to come on, come on, come on, come on and take it,
Take another little piece of my heart now, baby, (break a..)
Break another little bit of my heart now, darling, yeah. (have a..)
Hey! Have another little piece of my heart now, baby, yeah.
You know you got it if it makes you feel good,
Oh yes indeed.

You're out on the streets looking good, and baby,
Deep down in your heart I guess you know that it ain't right,
Never never never never never never never hear me when I cry at night.
Baby, I cry all the time!
And each time I tell myself that I, well I can't stand the pain,
But when you hold me in your arms, I'll sing it once again.

I'll say come on, come on, come on, come on, yeah take it!
Take another little piece of my heart now, baby. (break a..)
Break another little bit of my heart now, darling, yeah, (come on…)
Have another little piece of my heart now, baby, yeah.
Well, You know you got it, child, if it makes you feel good

Guitar

I need you to come on, come on, come on, come on and take it,
Take another little piece of my heart now, baby. (break a…)
Break another little bit of my heart, darling, yeah. (have a)
Have another little piece of my heart now, baby,
You know you got it (waaaaahhh)
Take a…Take another little piece of my heart now, baby. (break a…)
Break another little bit of my heart, and darling, yeah yeah (have a)
Have another little piece of my heart now, baby,
You know you got it, child, if it makes you feel good