I confess.. I just kind of realized something while reading about a boardie becoming an aunt.
- We have infertility problems
- My little brother is back with his gf and her children are grown teenagers and she can't have babies anymore. (And met those kids when they were already teenagers..)
- My three best friends :
....1. Is vehemently Child free by choice
....2. Has 3 sisters
....3. Has 2 children but is very very religious therefore, obviously she needed to pick someone who's actually religious..
- Steph's brother and his wife's kids were born before we were married, and Steph wasn't chosen as godfather either anyway.
I'll NEVER be a freakin' godmother!! Not to toot my own horn too much, but I would make SUCH A kickass godmother.
- I'm really not close to any other people that have children or that are planning too.
I confess that I'm wondering why the universe is keeping its children away from me? Would I be such a horrible mentor or something?
Sorry for the downer post.. I swear, I'm not down. I was just wondering...
I agree that not knowing people with kids shouldn't keep you from getting involved.
Although it might be difficult at first to be involved with kids when you want one of your own so badly, I think it could ultimately be very rewarding!
Just do it! Sign up for mentoring/Big Sisters/whatever it takes to get your good auntie spirit out there!
Being around children is certainly attainable - I'm just not sure that's going to be enough - especially when you want one of your own.
There's a lot of ways to become involved with kids -
Become a Big Sister
Volunteer at a local school to help in a classroom
Volunteer to spread cheer to kids in the hospital
Toy Drives!
I think you'd be a good mentor and role model - kids have a great sense of what is in someone's heart - and they'd know you were true. No sense in hanging back, you know - there's kids out there waiting for a mentor!!!! :)
I'm nominating you as Saige's blogger godmother! Sorry, you can't say no either because then I would be offended. And for the record, Saige would totally love you irl! And we haven't actually named any godparents for Saige so you are actually her only one. Want me to email or send some pics for your wallet :)
You totally would, make a kickass godmother. And mother.
Why don't you apply to be a Big Sister? Or a foster parent? There are a lot of different ways where you can be part of children's lives. I think that would be very rewarding.
Becoming a Big Sister is #29 on my 101/1001 list... but I haven't had the courage yet.. I"m scared. I'm scared to NOT be a good mentor for a kid... to be inadequate...
Well, if you look at things that way, then me, being surrounded by happy couples, shouldn't I be part of a happy couple myself? If that's what I'm around all the time?
But, I feel your frustration (well, in a different way). And I wish I had an answer (for both of us).
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